Cam Newton and the Commitment Issues that Exist in Black Relationships
The recent Cam Newton interview has sparked a conversation that our community has needed for a long time. Newton's discussion with Dr. Cheyenne Bryant, where he admitted his fear of marriage despite having eight children with three different women, highlights a broader issue affecting Black relationships.
If things don’t change, my girls may have to diversify their roster because there’s a disconnect that many Black men are quick to blame on us, Black women. But when you look deeper, it’s clear that the real issue lies in the fears and insecurities many Black men have about commitment.
This image shows Cam Newton and Dr. Cheyenne Bryant deep in conversation during their "Funky Friday" podcast interview, where they discuss themes of commitment and relationships.
The Numbers Don’t Lie…
Statistics tell us that only 26% of Black women are married, compared to 51% of white women. Additionally, around 62% of Black women aged 25-54 have never been married, which is significantly higher than their counterparts from other racial groups. These numbers reflect a larger trend where Black women face unique challenges in finding committed relationships. I’d need a whole new blog to dive into all those challenges, but let’s stay focused.
Cam Newton’s fear of marriage, despite his actions that have led to creating multiple families, is a prime example of why these statistics exist. Men like Newton seem to struggle with the idea of commitment, allowing their fears to drive their decisions, which unfortunately results in broken families and a disconnect with the very women they claim to love.
The Difference Between Cam Newton and Big Sean
While the internet was buzzing about Big Sean wanting to work through things before marrying Jhene Aiko, I can see where he’s coming from. During his interview with Charlamagne Tha God, Big Sean showed us that his approach is different from men like Cam Newton or Nick Cannon, who seem to avoid the responsibilities that come with commitment. Yes, Big Sean also became a father before marriage, but what makes him stand out is that he still desires a real partnership and is more thoughtful about what it takes to build a solid relationship. He understands that both marriage and raising a child are big commitments that require work and understanding—something we need to see more of in our community.
This image captures a moment from the "Out Of Context: Big Sean And Charlamagne Tha God" interview.
While it’s easy to focus on the challenges, it’s important to remember that love and commitment are alive and well in the Black community. We are not perfect and are learning just like everyone else but my own relationship is filled with love and teamwork, and I recently attended a beautiful wedding that reminded me of the power of dedication and lifelong commitment.
Let’s take this moment, sparked by Cam Newton’s interview, to encourage positive change. By recognizing the disconnect and actively working to bridge the gap, we can create a future where Black men and women thrive together in love and partnership.
Time to Step Up and Break the Cycle
The problems in our relationships aren’t just about us—they’re part of a bigger issue that has been affecting Black people for generations. We’ve all been hurt by the same system that tried to break our families apart, encouraged harmful ideas about what it means to be a man, and made it hard for us to trust and love each other.
This system has left deep scars that show up in our relationships today. But knowing this doesn’t mean it’s okay to keep making the same mistakes. It’s time for Black men to face these fears, heal from the past, and step up.
I’m calling for Black men to step up and help break these harmful cycles. In my opinion, Black women have been doing the work and are ready to continue. We’ve all been through the same struggles, and now, more than ever, we need our men to stand with us in tearing down these barriers.
Men, it’s on you now. How will you help fix this and build the strong, loving relationships our community needs?
P.S. This blog was proofread by my fiancé, who loves and supports Black women and is committed to helping both men and women thrive as a united, strong community—so talk to me nice, hemanwomanhaters >.<
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